(Trigger warning for discussion of a legal case involving sexual assault)
I think I’ve mentioned before that I live in Ohio.
if not, well, now you know.
Ohio’s been watched closely recently due to a case in Steubenville. You may have heard of it. A sexual assault case involving a 16 year old girl and two high school boys (16 & 17).
I tried my best not to follow it. I’m not dumb. I knew it would be triggery. But I have friends who discussed it frequently on Facebook and my paralegal mind couldn’t just scroll past without kicking in a couple thoughts.
It went safely, relatively undisturbed until last night.
The verdict came in over the weekend. Guilty. I was…I don’t want to use the word “happy” but closer to a satisfied relief. And the media has been flipping out for the most part. Talking about how these boy’s lives are “ruined”.
No. They CHOSE to ruin their own lives the moment they DRAGGED a girl around and violated her. They encouraged other students to not only watch, but PHOTOGRAPH this vile act.
The many articles I’ve scrolled through disturb me by how little they talk of how the victim has been brutalized. There are even articles that are annoyed at her desire to remain anonymous (the defense attorneys started that bitch-fest).
A girl who doesn’t want the world breathing down her neck after such an act?
Wow, gee, yes, that is just selfish of her.
The reason the girl desperately had to shield herself, in my opinion, was incited by the media frenzy that happened over the past 6 months. I don’t consider myself a particular sect, politically (i.e. conservative or liberal), but it was just disturbing to see the media (yes, mostly liberal) just go crazy with accusations and ideas that were not true.
I’m not a crazy fan of Breibart, but they wrote a decent article regarding the media frenzy.
No, there was no gang rape.
No, nobody urinated on her or dumped her unconscious body on her parent’s lawn.
No, the entire football-centered town was not under a fog of conspiracy.
But a girl was sexually violated, she was photographed being carried like a sack of potatoes by her rapists, and they were hundreds of nasty, graphic texts being sent all over the student body regarding what was done to her.
Yes, she was drunk. And it was argued how much of that liquor was of her own desire. There were even two female classmates who said something to the effect of “well, she liked drinking frequently” as a cause for being violated.
Apparently an interest in liquor now means a woman should deserve sexual assault.
I know my brief but angry stab at the media on Facebook last night upset some of my friends but I find it very interesting that they were all
-(straight) male friends
-very into sports (especially football)
-popular in high school
-tend to use alcohol as an excuse for dumb behavior (not assault, but other stupid shit)
I don’t want to say there’s a conspiracy or anything as paranoid as that. But there is a pattern. I wanted to message them privately and say “Have you ever been raped or sexually violated against your will? Then STFU”.
But I am a private person about that side of me.
So I poor my anger out on here.
And hope that it can cool my heart and heal the fracturing that’s been done.